Sunday will be the 18th anniversary of the day I said I do to one bib overall wearing bald man. The past eighteen years have flown by, and it doesn't feel like we have been married that long. Life with Eric is an adventure. Our misadventures keep things exciting, and most importantly, he keeps me laughing. If I have one piece of advice for anyone navigating the dating world, it would be to find someone who makes you laugh.
Eric makes me laugh out loud every single day. That is not an exaggeration; it is a fact. Whether it's his overly silly actions, sarcastic quips, or his ability to paint each person he encounters as a cartoon character, he is hilarious. Often, he is funny at my expense, but I have never really taken myself too seriously. Not only is he innately amusing, but he sets out to make me laugh every day. His desire to make me laugh is one of the many reasons I adore him.
I would also suggest one finds someone who is intelligent and challenges one's ideas, thoughts, and beliefs. After 18 years, we continue to enjoy conversations, debates and share ideas. I find intelligence sexy. That has not always been the case, but I did not meet my bib overall wearing wonder buns until I was almost thirty. Ideals for a mate changed considerably from the time I was in my twenties to my thirties. It is this growth and maturity that leads me to my last suggestion for a successful union.
I suggest waiting until one is older, has experienced life, and had some independence before settling into wedded bliss. I am immature for my age. I believe I will forever be impulsive, stubborn, and slightly irresponsible. However, had I married in my twenties, it would have been a recipe for disaster. I have mellowed a bit with age, and it has made me a better partner. Although I was thirty when we got married, my bib overall wearing love was a mere twenty-two. However, he is an old soul and lived enough for four men. We balance each other; that is the crucial point.
Marriage can be challenging, even if two individuals work to balance each other. I believe some days challenge the happiest of couples. Any time one spends a significant amount of time with another person, there are bound to be incidents that shake the very core of the relationship. However, acknowledging those times, working through the incidents, and maintaining love and respect for the other person will help to smooth out those rough patches. It also helps to know one has a herd of hungry pigs in the event one needs to hide a body...inset a smile and wink.
On this Friday, I wish you, dear reader, happiness, contentment, and laughter. As always, stay safe, be smart, and wash your hands.